Mom ordered to cover herself up when breastfeeding

It sounds like you’re dealing with a situation where someone — possibly your mother or another authority figure — expects or insists that breastfeeding be done in a way that’s more “covered” or private. If you’re the one breastfeeding, or supporting someone who is, this kind of directive can feel frustrating or even shaming.

Here are a few thoughts depending on the context:

If You’re the One Breastfeeding

You have the right to feed your child however you’re most comfortable. In most places, breastfeeding in public is legally protected. Covering up is a personal choice, not a requirement. If your mom is pressuring you to cover up, you could try responding with calm but firm boundaries:

• “I appreciate your concern, but I’m comfortable feeding like this.”

• “This is about feeding my baby, not about modesty.”

Sometimes the discomfort others express is more about their own conditioning than about what’s appropriate or respectful.

If This Is a Cultural or Generational Clash

Many older generations were taught that breastfeeding should be private, so their reactions may come from that mindset. If this is the case, a gentle conversation might help:

• “I understand you were raised with different expectations, but this is normal and healthy — and my baby comes first.”

If You’re a Supporter (Not the One Breastfeeding)

If you’re witnessing this kind of pressure being put on someone else, one of the most powerful things you can do is validate and support them:

• “She’s doing something completely natural. Let’s not make her feel self-conscious.”

Would you like help coming up with a specific response to say to your mom?

Absolutely — I can help with that. Here are a few types of responses you could use, depending on your tone and relationship with your mom:

1. Calm and Reassuring

If you want to keep things smooth but still stand your ground:

“Mom, I know you mean well, but I’m comfortable breastfeeding like this. It’s natural and normal, and my baby’s needs come first.”

2. Setting a Firm Boundary

If she keeps bringing it up and you need to draw a line:

“I’ve already said I’m not going to cover up. I need you to respect my choice, even if it makes you uncomfortable.”

3. Light and Disarming

If humor helps in your relationship:

“The baby doesn’t like eating under a blanket — would you? I’m not putting a cover over your head at dinner!”

4. Educating Gently

If she might be open to understanding:

“A lot of people used to think breastfeeding needed to be hidden, but it’s actually protected by law and encouraged by doctors to be done whenever and wherever it’s needed.”

Would you like a version that’s softer, more direct, or culturally tailored? I can adjust it depending on your family dynamics.